How Fear Held Me Back from Reaching My Potential

Leslie Samuel Mindset, Podcasts 31 Comments

How Fear Held Me Back from Reaching My Potential

How Fear Held Me Back from Reaching My Potential

Episode: 288

Today’s episode is a deviation from what I’ve been doing for the last few months.

There’s no interview, and it’s not all about blogging, business, social media or any of the usual topics.

While I do talk about business, I get into something much deeper – fear, and how it has held me back for too long.

I share some struggles that I’ve been dealing with since starting my business. These are struggles that have only intensified over time.

And the truth is this – I’ve allowed fear to cripple my progress.

This is one episode where the show notes won’t be as detailed as I normally have them. Why? Because in order to fully grasp what I’m trying to share, you have to listen to it.

So go ahead and listen, and then leave me a comment.

Warning: This episode is different from my other episodes. While I do talk about business, I also go into the spiritual realm.

I talk about God, Christianity, my purpose, etc. If you don’t want to hear any of that, this may not be the episode for you.

Question: If fear were not a part of your life, what would you do differently?

Comments 31

  1. I am listening to this wonderful podcast right now, and because my sole focus in this earthly life ( and my only reason for using social media) is to Radiate GODs Healing Will and Might, I am deeply appreciative of this, Leslie….❤️

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  2. CHRIST is all there is! All LIFE is Beholden to GOD ALMIGHTY and through JESUS, all souls do indeed have the opportunity to be totally Cleansed and completely Healed. We cannot do anything of True Importance in GODs Great Plan, here on Earth, without putting His Will at the forefront of every thought, every intention, every word, and every move❤️ I have spent my first 6 years of using computers only sharing what GOD has Graced me with in Miraculous Healing, and doing my best to reach out to meet people in need. Prayer is EVERYTHING to me, and in the last 3 months I realized I was fearful of making effort to market my 6 albums and books! I could not find that harmony in wanting to outreach and work only for the Healing in contrast to making a livelihood of my work. I abhor the evil lusts of this world, and also see that all over social media.
    I harmonize with everything you are expressing right now, Leslie, and I myself have come close to shutting down my blog and Facebook sites!
    I am so grateful for this podcast right now, because I had that moment last night where I crushed the fear again ❤️, in CHRIST, and after a few hours of tears and anger bubbling out) I came to the clear choice of continuing to work with the same Focus: GODs Will…not to get all emotionally hyped up about being a “rookie” at SEO, email lists, engagement, sales….all that stuff will indeed Flower out in Perfect timing. LOVE in JESUS, His Healing Might Focused upon ALL, and living in His Grasp of Peace and Purpose….That is how I radiate unto others and I will only Grow with my sisters and brothers in CHRIST….GOD BLESS YOU, Leslie, your sweet family, and your work ❤️🔥❤️

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      There was one word that you mentioned there that resonated with me so much because of a book that I’m reading named “The greatest salesman in the world”. It’s actually not what it sounds like :). It emphasizes the importance of Love in all we do. Here’s a line from the book – “If I have no other qualities I can succeed with love alone”. This is something that I’m taking seriously. How can I show God’s love in my interactions? And yes – even in my marketing.

      Thanks for sharing your heart Elise 🙂

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  3. Hi Samuel, I really enjoyed this episode. Well done!
    I would quit my Job and concentrate on building a business around my writing skills like I have always wanted.

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      Thanks for sharing Kay. Quitting your job and taking the leap is definitely a frightening thing. When I left my job, I was definitely afraid. But I had done a lot to build my business for 6 years before taking the leap. It’s definitely possible and if you stay focused, it can happen.

  4. Leslie, what a powerful episode! Two things that really resonated with me…”Accept the mantle of responsibility you’ve been given for the people who are put in your care” and “Only the person who has wrestled with something can help others.” Most of my life has been lived in the fear of not having a valuable story to share. Only in recent months, through much study of God’s word, have I begun to realize that that is extremely selfish! God has been present through many life trials and it’s my responsibility to share with others how He helped me through them. If fear were not part of my life, I’d attack this technology thing (that paralyzes me) head on and start a blog to help people learn to share their stories.
    Thank you for sharing your heart!

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      Thank you for sharing Debbie. One thing I’ve realized is this – if we are alive, we have something to share. You have something value, and that’s your story. Technology can be challenging, but there are many who have overcome the same challenges you are dealing with. So let’s do this 🙂

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  5. Leslie, Kudos to you for being so open in sharing your vulnerabilities. I truly understand where you are coming from and I am glad your buddies were able to help you see that this is your path and that you are positively impacting lives.
    I have been thinking about starting a blog for the last 6 years and bought courses, kindle books, webinars etc etc and learned a lot more than I need to get started. Somewhere along the way I realised that most of those kind people that were offering stuff so freely were just providing baits to add people to the email list and then suck you into a funnel. OMG!! That is still difficult to wrap my head around. I recall purchasing a course and upon checking out I was offered a ‘more content-filled’ version of the same course for $130
    dollars more. I declined but was later filled with buyer’s remorse for having purchased the initial course.
    I wrote some content and got my website built but it has remained in maintenance mode . Why is that? The business model just seems to be all about the money and not necessarily giving value to the all important list which only serves the purpose of building the bank account,
    There are lots of persons that provide value but when 10 emails hit my inbox promoting the same next big event /product it just seems disingenuous and all about the affiliate commission.
    Leslie, maybe there is an underlying fear that has prevented me from moving full speed ahead with my blog which I know is the medium through which I should share my message. In answer to your question – without the fear I would proceed to share my message and provide solutions to the persons who really need it.

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      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Joan. I completely understand. Although, I don’t really have a problem with the kind of funnel you described IF it’s done in a way that focuses on providing value. I’ve been through funnels that have helped me grow in my life and business AND those that were a complete waste of time and obviously ONLY focused on the money.

      I think funnels can be tremendously valuable.

      But to your fear – I definitely understand not moving ahead because of fear. But I think it’s time for use to face our fears and work hard at building what we are meant to build :).

  6. Great value in today’s podcast!! Thank you! I like the idea to start the morning asking God what He wants you to do… and how should you do that. I just did some rebranding, picked a specific target market (brought in my nets) of those that I can help, and have really tried to minister to them and offer them solutions. I am not the typical self-promoting blogger. I hate that! I genuinely want to help people… but I also need to pay the bills (as a divorced mom) at the same time. I am connecting more with my readers and I get lots of emails back. After hearing a lot of great feedback, I am now trying to write an eCourse. Just asking God to help me create the best product to bless others… and feed my family at the same time. I am trusting He’s already there… although I do struggle with fear too. Fear of failure mostly. Enjoy your time away!!

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      Wow Jen, thank you for sharing. It takes a lot to do that. And I definitely resonate with that fear (as you can tell from listening to the episode). I’m glad to hear that you are pushing through your fear and launching that course. That’s AWESOME. I hope it turns out to be a massive success 🙂

  7. Dear Leslie, I very much appreciate the style in which you presented your message in this episode. My gosh you’re a great storyteller.

    I respect your willingness to be brutally honest and tell it like it is- no sugar-coating and fluff.

    When it comes to publishing your podcast episodes, your posts are a remarkable production. Your show notes combined with infographics are best in class, totally worldclass.

    Not providing enough value haha….. that’s funny buddy….. I’m already a raving fan.

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      Thanks for the encouragement Byron. And yes – I know that I do provide value, but if I compare the value that I provide to the value that I want to provide, I definitely fall short and it has been because of fear. But no more ;). You’ll see what I mean in the future 🙂

  8. Just listened to today’s episode. Normally I don’t comment on folks episodes but after you being so raw and open, I felt I needed to come by and thank you. You touched on a fear I think many have. I’m glad your mastermind helped you through. A great group of guys. I believe everything happens for a reason, and maybe the Big Guy has plans for your journey to help man more!

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      Hi Tammy,

      Thank you so much for breaking your “no comment” streak and coming by to engage with me 😀

      I REALLy do appreciate that. Means a lot. Glad to hear that this episode resonated with you so well. And I am definitely blessed to be a part of the mastermind group that I’m in. Everything DOES happen for a reason. I’m a strong believer in that. The big guy has a plan for both of us 🙂

      Have a great rest of the week.

  9. Hi Leslie, I have been following you for quite a while now. And admire your honesty. I am an artist/painter and have been struggling with ways to sell my art online, as well as locally to the interior design market. I live close to New York City so it should not be a difficult thing to do, yet I let my fear or phone or ability stop me from sharing my art and providing value to interior designers and their clients. If I had no fear, I would simply pick up the phone and start calling designers I know, and then move on to those that I don’t. My ultimate goal is to develop myself as a brand that represents giving back, because I would love to give back a large percentage of my sales to help worthy causes. But I can’t do that until I start making money. I have to start having the mindset that it is my duty to share my adt, as well as my heart, and bring beauty into peoples lives, one painting at a time. I will try to remember what I have leRned from you today and just get out there and do it! The worst that could happen is people tell me “no”, right?! Enjoy your family time, you should be so proud of your accomplishments.

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      Wow Debbie, thank you so much for taking the time to share your heart here. I think it’s awesome. You definitely have value to share with the world, and yes – fear holds us back from doing just that. I pray that you are able to look past that fear and just push through. There’s a lot of awesomeness that can come from that. And just think about it this way – if you get a no, you basically end up with what you have right now. But if you get a yes, that’s one sale 🙂

  10. Hi Leslie,
    First I LOVED your show 288, and as a believer I would say never apologize for stating what you believe and why. After all it’s Your Show!
    As to what would I do if it weren’t for fear.
    I don’t even know. I am in the BAB University and as you know have stalled out. Partly because of my time consuming & stressfilled Hospital job. (And yes I have been looking for a better one, but my field is not plenteous especially for a 60 year old. And it pays better than most blue collar jobs. Partly because of fear of failure. I have failed at so many things I have lost the support of my wife in any venture besides working a job paying just enough to pay the bills and my student loan boat anchor debt from my last go at a dream (at 50 years old) which I failed miserably.
    At 60 now I seem paralyzed with fear and don’t trust that I can do anything right or hear what God would have me do.
    I think the devil stole my destiny and it feels like I have amnesia because I don’t even know what I would like/love to do . I have been told so early on “You can’t do that!” or chasing others dreams, and suggestions so long that all I know now is to go to a JOB – Work to pay bills – sleep and Repeat. So I reckon I will just ask for prayers. I wrote this because you really seemed to want comments, so I felt like I would give you one that might be a bit more than just “Great Show!” – which it was by the way.
    Thank you Leslie & God Bless!
    Robert

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      Hi Robert,

      Thanks for stepping out and sharing. Yes, I’m aware of your situations from past discussions. It’s definitely a tough one. You have inspired me to do something – to pray for the people who follow me on here on a regular basis. Because I know that we all go through tough situations and God has a plan for each one of us. But I would leave you with a question. You said – “I think the devil stole my destiny”. My question is this – Is God not big enough to take back what you believe the devil has stolen?

    2. Yes I believe God is BIG enough and a restorer – However it is just now this last week after 60 years on this planet that I figured that out – so I am pressing in for victory and discovery and appreciate your prayers as well!
      God Bless!

  11. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I loved this podcast! I’m so bad at selling anything that I make because I feel wrong promoting it. And my husband has been trying to persuade me for a while now to offer coaching from my homeschooling blog because I’m always talking other homeschool moms through problems or offering ideas. But I’ve been so reluctant to offer coaching because I was afraid of promoting myself.

    What you said- and quoted from Ray Edwards- really resonated with me though. God has indeed gifted me with the abilities that I have. And He can use me to bless other homeschooling moms with what I can provide. I’m inspired and looking forward to taking some of this inspiration and running with it in the new year. 🙂

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  12. Hi Leslie,
    Up until now I’ve been an iTunes subscriber and listener and never left you a comment. You have helped me so much this past year as I am coming to my blog’s one year anniversary in February. I want to tell you that my blog is meant to encourage moms who are growing in their own creative passions while raising their children….and I have a Christian message for them sometimes too. You are teaching me and I’m encouraging them in their faith…..you may not ever really know the infinite multiplication table of your ministry until you meet God in heaven but my friend, you reached me with your social media marketing and now I’m reaching others in my own blog ministry too. Now that is a powerful mantle. I’m going to keep on learning from you so keep up the great work. Many thanks for this message!
    Stephanie

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      You have no idea how encouraging that is Stephanie. Thank you so much for taking the time to let me know. You are awesome. Wishing you absolutely nothing but the best on this journey you’re on. Blessings!

  13. This was exactly wanted I neede to hear today! I randomly came across the podcast and WOW did it resonate! Sometimes the spirit feels broken, which is depressing. No sales, no phone calls, no email replies and the world feels too big, you feel alone and swallowed up, lost.
    Is what I am doing the right thing?
    If so, why do i feel like a failure as every corner?
    Fear is a lack of trust. Trusting in God is difficult when darkness envelopes your spirit. You lose your grip on faith, trust is a long way down a treacherous road – you feel let down in this solitude.
    This podcast asked me to take those adverse reactions, those feelings of dire blackness and ask instead, how were these growth opportunities? How can I seek and find the blessings gratefully that are also falling like rain? This is how I should keep God close to me, by trusting and accepting the strange power God gives us when we look.
    THANKS for the inspiration – I cannot tell you how badly I needed it on this gray, cold day.

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      Woohooo Carol. Your comment was exactly what I needed to hear today. Glad you stumbled onto the podcast and found so much value in it. Glad it was inspirational. Now let’s make 2017 AWESOME! 🙂

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